Continuing the ‘stepping up’ theme – I was talking with my boss, also a childless stepmom, the other day about stepping up vs love and the conversation turned to Torey. Of all the Kids she is the hardest for me to step up for. And I realized, it’s because I don’t get that smile from her, I don’t see that my being there made a difference for her. When I attend her games or school activities I’m barely acknowledged. This year is better than last year – at least I usually get a “thanks for coming” as we’re leaving. Last year there was one game where she and my Husband had a whole conversation and she didn’t look at or acknowledge me once. Finally, as she was walking away, she turned to look at me and mumbled “see you later” and walked away. It’s so hard, when I feel completely dismissed and disregarded, to continue ‘stepping up’ for Torey. Then my boss pointed out – maybe she’s the one for whom it’s most important. I don’t know. I don’t know if it makes a difference to her if I show up or not. But I continue to try because you never know.
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